tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post8143184542895117476..comments2024-03-20T06:29:27.167-04:00Comments on The Rabbi with a Blog (Rabbi Jason Miller): Karma Contrition: Joel Stein's Child's Nut Allergy & Rabbi Compares Helen Thomas to HitlerRabbi Jason Millerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07805550465729805847noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-7745604146027262662010-09-20T11:13:51.154-04:002010-09-20T11:13:51.154-04:00Re: Joel Stein, the thing that bothers me so much ...Re: Joel Stein, the thing that bothers me so much about his behavior as well as similar behavior of others is that it smacks of such arrogance. Why do so many feel that they have the right to judge others?? How can someone who knows so little about a subject be so quick to condemn another who has spent countless hours researching a particular subject and basically "living the life" that another is mocking?? <br /><br />This sort of thing hits too close to home for me- I have a daughter with autism and a family who has spent not a moment researching it, attempting to understand it, or living it, yet they feel free to judge me and the decisions I have made in the course of treating it. They are completely devoid of empathy and their arrogance in my opinion is breathtaking. Why must it take having a personal experience themselves (at which point they declare themselves "the experts" and argue that their experience is "different" and "more real" than mine or anyone else's for that matter) for them to semi-understand and stop blathering about others...until the next issue comes along?<br /><br />While I appreciate Joel Stein's semi-mea culpa, he still casts a bit of judgement on how other parents deal w/ their child's allergies when he mentions that he won't have a nut-free house, they won't be looking for nut-free schools, etc. In my opinion, every parent has a right to decide for themselves when the stakes are too high and make decisions for their child(ren) accordingly. <br /><br />Here's a current example from my life: some "friends" feel that my daughter should be allowed to cross streets on her own in our neighborhood b/c other kids her age (and younger) are doing so. They say that my daughter is "fine", that I am used to having to watch her every second and I am having trouble letting go. Some might even tell me about how they understand b/c their own children "have issues"- a learning disability of some sort, or AD/HD, etc. These people know nothing about how my daughter thinks and understands things- they look at her and she looks typical enough so I must be a crazy attention-seeking mom!! HUHHHH??? I don't feel that she is ready to cross a street on her own and if I were to take a chance and let her (to appease others!), she probably wouldn't walk away with just a skinned knee if she were to make a mistake in judgement. That is a risk I am not willing to take! How arrogant for another parent to judge my unwillingness to take such a large risk to my child's life when I, her parent, feel that she is not ready to handle that responsibility!<br /><br />I just wish that people would worry more about what's going on in their own lives and spend less time judging others for things they know nothing about- Yom Kippur or no Yom Kippur. Has Joel Stein learned the bigger lesson for the future re: being so judgemental of others? Or has he simply learned a bit about the true concern for children w/ nut allergies??<br /><br />I'm happy to have discovered your blog, Rabbi. L'Shana Tovah!!<br /><br />KarinKarinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-74899102752474215972010-09-19T17:19:04.266-04:002010-09-19T17:19:04.266-04:00Karma can be hell.Karma can be hell.flu shot damaged momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06037851810427662312noreply@blogger.com