tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post7372358668089194059..comments2024-03-07T15:19:48.772-05:00Comments on The Rabbi with a Blog (Rabbi Jason Miller): Chelsea Clinton's Wedding Co-Officiated by Rabbi & Methodist MinisterRabbi Jason Millerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07805550465729805847noreply@blogger.comBlogger40125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-68122535674705933012011-01-25T12:16:15.702-05:002011-01-25T12:16:15.702-05:00G-d made the first 10 rules. Man made the rest up....G-d made the first 10 rules. Man made the rest up.<br /><br />I was born and raised Jewish, by a mother who was not of Jewish blood but by a Father who was; whose entire family was exterminated in the Holocaust. I identify with Judaism, I consider myself Jewish by blood, and that's because no matter how many ways you argue it, Jewishness is a part of my ancestry. I was raised Jewish, was Bat Mitzvah'ed, and have gone to Temple all my life. But according to some, I'm not considered Jewish. And yes, I am marrying a gentile, and yes we will be married by an interfaith Rabbi, and yes we will raise our children Jewish. What does any of it matter, as long as there is G-d in our life and that we respect, cherish and acknowledge our traditions and beliefs? Doesn't it all ultimately come down to G-d? Go ahead and judge, but I know ultimately it is not about your judgment of me but about my love for G-d, living my life as a good person by following the 10 commandments and passing it down to my children. Being Jewish isn't just a religion, but also a culture, and I will not let any of you sit here and tell me that myself and my children are/will not be considered Jewish- Jewish blood is in us whether you like it or not.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-85838194376631303882010-10-25T17:37:48.000-04:002010-10-25T17:37:48.000-04:00Marc came from a Conservative Jewish home, yet he ...Marc came from a Conservative Jewish home, yet he had the chutzpah to marry Chelsea while standing under a chuppah, donning a yarmulkah and having the 7 blessings recited. If that wasn't bad enough, the ceremony was performed on Shabbos. The Mazal Tov that we need to say is not to Marc and Chelsea. It is to the American Jewish populace. We have become so ignorant that we've outdone Hitler! Perhaps we should be protected as an endangered species.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-30825382729960066742010-10-25T17:26:59.865-04:002010-10-25T17:26:59.865-04:00To Whom It May Concern,
Marc and Chelseas nupt...To Whom It May Concern,<br /> Marc and Chelseas nuptuals were a "shande for the goyim" as my Bubbe would say. I find it unfathomable that a Jewish man who was raised in a Conservative house would marry a "shikseh" under a chuppah on a Shabbos while wearing a kippah and a tallis. Where is Tevye when we need him?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-5135679240298151572010-09-01T19:41:00.550-04:002010-09-01T19:41:00.550-04:00cermak_rd: Just to be clear, I didn't say Refo...cermak_rd: Just to be clear, I didn't say Reform Judaism was an exit ramp, that was one of the anonymous comments above.Rabbi Jason Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07805550465729805847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-83754236802157692512010-09-01T19:37:33.574-04:002010-09-01T19:37:33.574-04:00I don't think it's fair to refer to Reform...I don't think it's fair to refer to Reform Judaism as an exit ramp for Judaism. For me, and many others it's an on-ramp. <br /><br />At my local Temple I have found a friendly, welcoming community that celebrates Shabbat and doesn't make fun of those who have to read from transliteration for a while to participate. Perhaps the couple should seek out a Reform congregation if other branches wish to keep their doors closed to them.fcermak_rdnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-4386410717412948202010-08-13T14:54:44.448-04:002010-08-13T14:54:44.448-04:00So much of this seems to be about children of the ...So much of this seems to be about children of the marriage. But what if it's clear there will be no children--for example, an intermarrying couple either beyond childbearing age or a couple that doesn't plan to have kids?eclipsenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-23348384295628406042010-08-04T21:33:26.991-04:002010-08-04T21:33:26.991-04:00I am a christian without a capital C, who somehow ...I am a christian without a capital C, who somehow stumbled across this blog. I am utterly horrified by the intolerant nature of some of the comments posted here. If one of my children were to marry a Jewish person, I would be most concerned with their solidity as a couple, their devotion to each other and to the care of their children. I would not seek to impose my own religious views. Do I gather this is the wrong attitude?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-65310060908146149872010-08-04T11:16:45.881-04:002010-08-04T11:16:45.881-04:00Not sure if this discussion is about intermarriage...Not sure if this discussion is about intermarriage, rabbinic officiation or co-officiation or the state of American Jewry. So let me begin with the last first. We are clearly in a state of flux and the community is changing rapidly. (Its institutions better change too or they will be increasingly irrelevant to the folks whom they are trying to reach.) BY the way, this is why we have titled the next Jewish Outreach Institute conference Judaism2030 so that we can look at what the future holds in store for us.<br /><br />As for intermarriage. It is ironically a sign of Jewish success not failure. It means that we have become fully American and those of other backgrounds are prepared to cast their lot with us. And we say, "welcome.: It is about bringing Chelsea in not marc marrying out. And they are joining 1.25 million other Jewish interfaith marriages in the US, the fastest growing segment. Like it or not, it is reality and we are mandated by our tradition to welcome the stranger. <br /><br />As for rabbis, they need to be in a position to exercise the same free choice as everyone else. So there should be rabbis who are willing to officiate or co-officiate and rabbis who are not willing to do so. But there need to be options available to people so that they can make the choice, as well. <br /><br />Some will draw conclusions from the wedding and its many details. and we will only know who is right or wrong as this couple becomes a family and makes choices in their own life. <br /><br />But I know one thing. If the Jewish community isnt there to welcome them in, then their choice will be much easier to make--and it will be our loss.<br />Rabbi Kerry Olitzky<br />Jewish Outreach InstituteRabbi Kerry Olitzkyhttp://www.joi.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-63439971949511981472010-08-03T12:59:02.239-04:002010-08-03T12:59:02.239-04:00Rabbi Miller,
Thank you for clarifying.
I believe ...Rabbi Miller,<br />Thank you for clarifying.<br />I believe ( and many others have theorized) that the Conservative movement will officially allow intermarriage within 5-10 years. <br />If this happens, do you think Rabbis like yourself who would not take advantage of this allowance would run the risk of being marginalized?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-58926354286778064752010-08-03T12:55:05.506-04:002010-08-03T12:55:05.506-04:00Anonymous: I think you misunderstand my point. Eve...Anonymous: I think you misunderstand my point. Even if the Rabbinical Assembly reversed its position and allowed member rabbis (read: Conservative rabbis) to officiate at interfaith weddings, I still would not.<br /><br />I believe a Jewish wedding requires two Jewish individuals.<br /><br />Thank you for allowing me to clarify.Rabbi Jason Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07805550465729805847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-84143161664821307122010-08-03T10:56:17.405-04:002010-08-03T10:56:17.405-04:00Rabbi Jason,
I'm not sure I understand your re...Rabbi Jason,<br />I'm not sure I understand your response.<br />Just to be clear, are you saying that the ONLY reason that you do not perform inter-marriages is because the Conservative Rabbinical Assembly won't allow you to becuase of its rules and if and or when the rules change (and I do believe Conservative will allow intermarriage in 5-10 years)and allowed you to then you would officiate at intermarriages? Is that your position or did I misunderstand you?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-8036989002426528532010-08-02T23:44:50.244-04:002010-08-02T23:44:50.244-04:00Here are the answers to your questions:
1. Isn...Here are the answers to your questions:<br /><br /><i>1. Isn't it true that Rabbis given smicha from the RA can be defrocked if they even attend an interfaith wedding?</i><br /><br />-In theory this is true though I don't know of anyone who has been ejected from the RA for this. There is an implied exception for close family members. The rule has to do with <i>marit ayin</i> -- that is, a Conservative rabbi showing up at an interfaith wedding could be perceived as tacit approval/endorsement.<br /><br /><i>2. Isn't it true that statistics interfaith marriages by and large just don't work in the long run compared to intrafaith marrages with notable and various exceptions.</i><br /><br />The statistics I've seen do in fact show that interfaith marriages end in divorce more than intrafaith marriages. Anecdotally, I've noticed this as well. I know that the leaders in the outreach and interfaith family movements (e.g., Ed Case, Kerry Olitzky, etc.) take exception with those claims.<br /><br /><i>3. Isn't it true that the progeny of the Clinton/Mezvinsky will not be halachically Jewish?</i><br /><br />According to me, correct. The children of that union, unless converted, will not be halakhically Jewish (or unless Chelsea converts before giving birth).<br /><br />Regarding Marc Mezvinsky's parents... they can go to any shul they want. Just because their son intermarried doesn't mean they should have to switch denominations. That's just silly.<br /><br />Regarding your Yom Kippur comment, I believe the extreme example is not just eating a bacon cheeseburger on YK, but a bacon DOUBLE cheeseburger. If you want to underscore your point, just add "while smoking" to the end of that example.Rabbi Jason Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07805550465729805847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-40682926497906708812010-08-02T23:32:41.473-04:002010-08-02T23:32:41.473-04:00Rabbi Jason -
1. Isn't it true that Rabbis g...Rabbi Jason - <br /><br />1. Isn't it true that Rabbis given smicha from the RA (Conservative Judaism's governing body) can be defrocked (if you will) if they even attend an interfaith wedding? <br />2. Isn't it true that statistics interfaith marriages by and large just don't work in the long run compared to intrafaith marrages with notable and various exceptions.<br />3. Isn't it true that the progeny of the Clinton/Mezvinsky will not be halachically Jewish?<br /><br />Given that the answers to these questions are yes - Then shouldn't the answer be that Conservative Judaism stick to conserving this area of Judaism and hold its ground and let Mezvinsky's parents go to a Reform Temple to daven if they feel more accepted there? and to not wish this couple a mazel tov any more then if the groom worked on Yom-Kipper or ate a bacon-cheeseburger?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-67142701406321882812010-08-02T15:43:11.973-04:002010-08-02T15:43:11.973-04:00Rabbi, no offense but you are being disingenuous h...Rabbi, no offense but you are being disingenuous here. These changes you refer to are how the Orthodox community interacts with the world at large, not about their religious beliefs or how they conduct services.<br /><br />These are relevant social issues for any somewhat closed-off community, but don't have anything to do with their way of practicing Orthodox Judaism.<br /><br />I don't believe any change in Orthodoxy will be anything other than a slight imperceptible change.<br /><br />What I mean by that is if someone walks out of an Orthodox service now, and comes back in 20 years time, he probably won't notice much, if any, difference. <br /><br />This is not the case with Conservative or Reform since their beliefs are fluid and have no boundaries.<br /><br />Correct me if I am wrong but the Conservatives (and Reform) don't even have an official and unified belief on Judaism itself. You are free to believe that the Torah was written by men, just as you are free to believe it was dictated by G-d.<br /><br />In Orthodox Judaism there is no such choice, nor will there ever be, so how far can it really stray from its roots?<br /><br />Once you believe that the Torah was written by men you have essentially opened the door to any kind of change you can think of since there are no boundaries.<br /><br />I don't even know of any mainstream Christian church that believes that their new testament was just written by men, rather than being divinely inspired.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-75382814165810158772010-08-02T09:16:12.112-04:002010-08-02T09:16:12.112-04:00I can not believe a Rabbi would utter such words !...I can not believe a Rabbi would utter such words ! A Jewish wedding is a celebration of destiny a new link in a chain that has been going on from the day our nation was created and will hopefully go strong until the final redepmtion ! An interfaith marriage is the end of this bond ! No wonder the Jewish community in the US has shrunk in the past 50 years ! Instread of being a leader you are just trying to please public opinion ! "Pnei hador kepnei hakelev" . (You proably wil play off my comments by saying that I'm some kind of extreme orthodox person with no understanding of the worlds need but I'm nothing further than that I'm a grandchild of holocaust survivers wondering what the point is to survive if two generations later we get wiped away by assimilation)Barryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18180820192119150123noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-57033808479366864482010-08-02T08:00:48.265-04:002010-08-02T08:00:48.265-04:00To those who say that Orthodox Judaism doesn't...To those who say that Orthodox Judaism doesn't change, I just read a great article about change in Orthodoxy. <br /><br />The first paragraph begins: In the Orthodox community, the words “change” and “innovation” are not very popular. They imply a departure from the tradition, a need for something different from the rich tradition that has been handed down to us from the past. And yet, the Orthodox community does change. Sometimes it changes gradually over many generations, as with the increase in women’s education through the Bais Yaakov movement over the last century. Other times, it changes abruptly, in reaction to current events. In fact, whatever one has to say about whether the Orthodox community “changes,” at minimum we can agree that the Orthodox community reacts. And that reaction can be for good or bad, depending on your point of view, and depending on what inputs were in place when the reaction occurred.<br /><br /><a href="http://ejewishphilanthropy.com/oxymoron-or-opportunity-innovation-in-the-orthodox-community/" rel="nofollow">Continue Reading Here</a>Rabbi Jason Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07805550465729805847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-31431814452010205962010-08-01T14:12:47.868-04:002010-08-01T14:12:47.868-04:00Rabbi, (some) Judaism only changes because some ra...Rabbi, (some) Judaism only changes because some rabbis chase after trends in society rather than being anchors in society.<br /><br />If you can stand side by side with a priest and perform a dual religious ceremony then you have essentially endorsed the Christian beliefs.<br /><br />People wonder why the Conservative and Reform movements shrink is size, but it seems pretty clear to me why that is.<br /><br />The one thing that always led to the destruction of Judaism was when Jews followed the beliefs of their neighbors.<br /><br />This is seen over and over in the Torah, yet here is another Rabbi endorsing this, as if it is inevitable.<br /><br />It's can only come to pass when Rabbis such as yourself allow it to come to pass.<br /><br />Sad, but that's the truth. And it will remain this way until Rabbis choose to lead society rather than to follow its trends.<br /><br />I thank G-d that I have always had a strong faith in him and never cared too much what some rabbis said who promoted such anti-Jewish ideas.<br /><br />The day my Rabbi starts officiating at interfaith marriages, or same sex weddings, is the day I stop attending shul and instead pray at home.<br /><br />If I have stronger beliefs than the Rabbis do then I have no need for them anymore.<br /><br />As a congregant I would never pay a dollar to support any shul that promoted anything other than traditional Judaism.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-26461413179762706112010-08-01T01:37:32.751-04:002010-08-01T01:37:32.751-04:00Aryeh,
Fair question. You ask: "Had the RA n...Aryeh,<br /><br />Fair question. You ask: "Had the RA not held this policy, and had the family asked you, would you have officiated at this wedding of a Jew and a non-Jew?"<br /><br />When I'm asked to officiate at the wedding of a Jewish person to a non-Jewish person (interfaith), I say "no."<br /><br />When a friend is involved, I don't just say "no," but I will meet with the couple and see if the non-Jewish partner is interested in conversion. I'm willing to help them by having pre-marital discussions with them, but I also explain that I cannot officiate at their wedding.<br /><br />My sense is that, and I've been quoted publicly on this topic, in the next 5-10 years there will be Conservative rabbis officiating at interfaith marriages. Rumor has it that there are currently some Conservative rabbis performing interfaith marriages under the radar. This could mean that there are Conservative rabbis marrying Jews to individuals with only a Jewish father, but not a Jewish mother ("patrilineal Jews").<br /><br />Most likely it will be a high-profile Conservative rabbi who, when he feels the timing is right and it's the right couple (read: celebrity), will perform an interfaith wedding and make headlines. That will force other rabbis to consider following suit.<br /><br />When I started rabbinical school (JTS) in 1998 there were only a few rabbis who were supposedly officiating at same-sex commitment ceremonies. It was very hush-hush. Then a Conservative rabbi in Baltimore (the late Rabbi Mark Loeb, of blessed memory) was quoted in Jewish newspapers and on the Web saying that he was doing commitment ceremonies. Less than 10 years later, the Rabbinical Assembly changed its policy to allow Conservative rabbis to officiate at same-sex commitment ceremonies (and admit gays and lesbians to the movement's rabbinical and cantorial schools). Now, I can't think of a Conservative rabbi in my generation who wouldn't do a commitment ceremony if asked. That's how this changes.<br /><br />And it's not just in the Conservative movement that these changes come about. In a few years, there will be several Orthodox rabbis who are women. That was unthinkable a decade ago. Judaism isn't a static religion -- it evolves!Rabbi Jason Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07805550465729805847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-73679911560295126702010-08-01T00:58:20.615-04:002010-08-01T00:58:20.615-04:00Rabbi, you say that "I'm a Conservative r...Rabbi, you say that "I'm a Conservative rabbi forbidden by the Rabbinical Assembly, of which I'm a member, to officiate at Chelsea's interfaith wedding." Had the RA not held this policy, and had the family asked you, would you have officiated at this wedding of a Jew and a non-Jew?<br /><br />If the answer is no, I applaud you, but you're being a little misleading. What you should say is "I'm a Conservative rabbi forbidden by my reading of halacha to officiate at Chelsea's interfaith wedding."<br /><br />As far as your point that the Conservative movement loses members by not being more friendly to people who've intermarried, perhaps you're right. But how many members would the Conservative movement lose if it rejected in the name of convenience the age-old ideal of a Jewish family built by two Jewish parents?<br /><br />In my opinion, the Conservative response to intermarriage has to start long before a child is marriage-age. The Conservative movement should strive to increase the number of kids who participate in and are inspired by Schechter schools, Camps Ramah, USY groups, Nativ, and KOACH. Hopefully by the time Conservative Jewish kids are thinking about marriage, the idea of marrying an apathetic Jew (let alone a gentile) won't even occur to them.Aryehnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-89363190116705065712010-08-01T00:12:51.764-04:002010-08-01T00:12:51.764-04:00Rabbi David - In masechet kiddushin, there are rea...Rabbi David - In masechet kiddushin, there are really 3 ways for a couple to effect erusin:<br /><br />1) kinyan (ring, coin, etc.) in presence of two valid/kosher eidim (witnesses);<br /><br />2) Through a shtar (ketubah contract) in the presence of two valid/kosher witnesses<br /><br />3) bi'ah (sexual intercourse with the intention of creating the bond of marriage).<br /><br />I'll readily admit that #3 above is a gray area and it's only referring to two Jews. In fact, #3 was likely only intended by the rabbis in cases of levirate marriage.<br /><br />Bottom line is that Chelsea and Marc are married according to civil law. According to Halacha (Jewish law), I would contend that they are not married. I hope that clarifies.Rabbi Jason Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07805550465729805847noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-9406698118390921272010-07-31T23:50:18.350-04:002010-07-31T23:50:18.350-04:00You mention that regardless of the kashrut of the ...You mention that regardless of the kashrut of the ketubah and kiddushin, they will be married via bi'ah later that night (we presume.) I thought bi'ah along with shtar and p'ruta were only effective with two kosher witnesses present?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00277979355558351628noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-82770079301965141952010-07-31T23:29:14.483-04:002010-07-31T23:29:14.483-04:00I'm by no means a very religious Jew, but I ha...I'm by no means a very religious Jew, but I have joined and love Chabad.<br /><br />I love Chabad for two reasons:<br /><br />1. They accept all Jews and don't judge them.<br /><br />2. They provide you with a clear path of what the right way to practice Judaism is.<br /><br />While reform and conservative provides #1, they don't necessarily provide #2.<br /><br />Leaders are supposed to lead by example, and rabbis performing mixed marriages or performing marriages on Shabbat, are not doing that.<br /><br />Unfortunately that's what many conservative and reform rabbis don't seem to understand. If you are not there to set the example then who do we have to follow? We're supposed to follow you, you're not supposed to follow us.<br /><br />I don't believe the borders today are blurry anymore than they were the day Moses went up to Mt Sinai. They are only blurry when you have lost your way, just like they were blurry for the people who made the Golden Calf.<br /><br />I feel sad for people who have lost the meaning of what Judaism is. It's not about coveting the land of Israel, it's not about being accepted by your gentile neighbors, it's not about being socially active, and it's not about hoping that celebrities are Jews.<br /><br />It's about following the Torah that contains the values that Ha Shem gave us to the best of our ability.<br /><br />PS I personally think intermarrying is the best thing for Judaism. It takes those people who are not interested in being Jews any longer and essentially filters them out. Their line will end with their children and grandchildren, but that's a good thing in my opinion.<br /><br />It's better to have 10 Jews who are serious about being Jews and represent Judaism in the way it should be represented, than to have 100 Jews who don't even have a clue about what Judaism is all about, or want to turn it into something else of their own creation.<br /><br />The silver lining is that it's no problem for their children or grandchildren should they ever want to be Jews because they can just convert, which most of them would probably have to do anyway since many of their mothers are not Jews. They would be welcomed back just like anyone else is.<br /><br />That's the best kind of Jew anyway, someone who wants to be Jewish and participates in all that goes along with it.<br /><br />My greatest joy is having my 2 year-old daughter see my wife lighting candles on Shabbat and hearing her telling her mommy "Shabbat Shalom".<br /><br />If those things have no meaning in a person's life then why carry on the charade of calling yourself a Jew?<br /><br />I consider myself Jewish because of my religious beliefs, not because of my ethnicity and not because I think I have good morals.<br /><br />Judaism shows us a path to good morals, but having good morals does not necessarily make someone Jewish.<br /><br />Not that non-Jews are any worse or better than Jews, but the Torah has always been crystal clear about what Jews are supposed to do.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-88634240022054541542010-07-31T19:42:57.871-04:002010-07-31T19:42:57.871-04:00I am a reform Jew and I have been married for 31 y...I am a reform Jew and I have been married for 31 years to a non-Jewish man. We were married under a chupa. We have raised two children in a Reformed congregation started when they were 3 years old. My son had a bris when he was about 2.5 or so. My kids are both adopted and circumsion was not the norm in the country of his birth. It was done under anesthia with a rabbi in the opperating room. Both my kids are B'nai mitvot. My son is now a single parent raising his son as a Jew, so please don't tell me coming from an interfaith family atomatically leads to church.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10805768887745987652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-70533089936185619292010-07-31T07:15:10.061-04:002010-07-31T07:15:10.061-04:00As a Jewish man married to a non Jew, your comment...As a Jewish man married to a non Jew, your comments were very refreshing. This is my 2nd marriage; my first was with a Jewish woman at a very young age. It lasted over 10 years. It seems looking back I married her almost to please my parents!! I don't understand why people would want to denounce there marraige.They need to work on their life and relationships before making judgments on someone else’s! We should leave that up to a higher power..Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12787963434582707533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6003330.post-15413651904473267742010-07-30T16:16:14.248-04:002010-07-30T16:16:14.248-04:00Thanks Amy.Thanks Amy.Rabbi Jason Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07805550465729805847noreply@blogger.com